So I’ve been texting this guy casually for a few weeks, we met on a dating site. The first time we hung out we hooked up but not actual sex. Everything else basically . . But he told me to tell him “I love you daddy” and to say “ I want you to get me pregnant” and asked multiple times will I be his Gf, am I his? Like repeatedly I honestly went along with it for fun but now reflecting it’s super odd.
He told me before he’s into being called daddy and such but what’s that’s all about? He also calls me a good girl and is bossy. Clearly a bit full of himself but actually nice guy for some fun.
I plan to ask him but I’m sure it would be the truth lol I’m so genuinely curious, does he miss his ex or just to feel wanted?
I also have the theory he’s saying that to manipulate me lol.
He told me he has a problem with girls falling in love with him and wanting more and he’s not ready because he’s building up his career . . I’m assuming these girls are falling for him because he says things like this? ?
I know it’s not something he means sense it was in the moment but what’s the point of telling me to say that? I want a guy’s opinion or personality explanation
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But he told me to tell him “I love you daddy” and to say “ I want you to get me pregnant” and asked multiple times will I be his Gf, am I his?
Okay first of all, that’s weird. I’m not kink shaming, but what I am saying is you don’t just throw out your kinks like that and say “call me daddy” or say “I want to you to get me pregnant” without your consent. In BDSM there’s something called safe, sane, consensual. Clearly, this person didn’t even ask about you felt, just demanded. You talk about boundaries, what you’re comfortable, your hard no’s and yesses and don’t pressure people.
The other thing is being VERY CLEAR about the nature of the relationship. Personally, I’d genuinely ask “where is this relationship going, here are my feelings, what are yours”.
Because OP I have a very hard time telling if this person of yours just sucks at boundaries. That’s important to talk about.
It could be games or it could be he likes the idea of being a father and it turns him on.
You have to look at his whole behavior. If the vibe is “fun” and not serious, then it is probably just a game. Having kids is expensive and a long-term commitment.
It’s a kink.
A little to weird for my taste but to each their own.
Quick answer, its weird and creely for the following reasons:
1) personally, I think it’s weird for a guy to tell you to call him daddy. I think that the woman should start daddy talk if that’s something she is into. (Just my opinion)
2) telling you to say “I love you” to him on first hookup?
3) he told you to tell him “ I want you to get me pregnant”. Again, it being first time, weird. Also, if those were his exact words, he needs to work on his dirty talk.. “I want to” no “I need you”, “get me pregnant” lololol. Pregnant is such an awkward word to use. There are quite a few alternatives
I’d definitely laugh if I was told #3