Recently I went to pride and Comic-Con with my partner and it was incredibly fun, but both times my partner got mad at me because it seemed like I wasn’t having fun. I’m a very relaxed person, I’m not s loud talker and my emotions don’t really show in my body language. Both times when they got mad at me I explained that I was having fun and they said “well you need to start acting like you’re having fun.” How am I supposed to act like I’m having fun?
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Have you asked your partner what behaviours they want you to exhibit?
They have a tendency to control. There’s a gap between how they think you should be and how you are. I’d suggest keeping an eye on how much they think things ‘should’ be xyz. If they seem like an overbearing film critic, you might want to consider whether you are compatible with such an opinionated person.
On your end a few ‘I’m goods’ should suffice. If they accept that or try to get an explanation in a compassionate way, then that’s a great sign. If they nag you or give you the cold shoulder, take note of that.