Marriage can not be one sided. Through ups and downs and good times need a humble check oncr in awhile. It takes work and purposeful effort to stay engaged mentally, to remain connected. Phones are a dangerous distraction. Bromamce too much is dangerous, and discussing your frustrations with others dangerous. To re-connect after distance and years of not talking about “white elephants” in the room is a disheartening and sad place to be when you both are still passionately in love but everything else in between has been lost. Our phones, jobs, bromance, friends have taken the place of our spouse. 💔