So I’ve gone on 4 dates with a guy. The in person dates are amazing and we are very sexually compatible. I always end up leaving with the biggest smile on my face. We joke and have great conversations. But we don’t communicate besides only planning and confirming a date. He’s very attractive, successful and is 9 years older than me. I’m not doing so bad for my age, but I do feel a bit inadequate. I’m just not sure if he likes me and I don’t want to ask him because It may be too soon? He ended last nights date with “I’ll see you soon” and told me that he’s not usually the touchy type but it feels really good when I do it.
I’m just confused and not sure when to ask him what he’s looking for. He tells me I should travel to Europe and I’d have fun sleeping with others which kind of throws me off. Maybe I’m overthinking
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I think 4 dates is plenty soon enough to ask someone if they are looking for a relationship or not. Just ask him.
Why not just ask him in person at one of your dates?
If he keeps asking you out then he’s interested.
If you want to text more, then text him more.
It’s ok to ask people to answer you a bit sooner if they take forever.
For example I asked a woman I’ve been seeing to try to answer me a bit quicker as she would only answer me at ~midnight. So to set up a date I’d text and get an answer when I woke up the next day. So I would text back at ~7am and would again get a text at midnight. I just asked her to try and be more responsive. I also said that she can keep texting me like that as long as she’s aware that by not getting back to me it’s also sending a message. After saying that to her I get an answer in an hour or 2.
Not everyone likes texting. It’s a pain in the ass as a means of communicating.
Base your assessment on in-person interactions. Or just call him.