She (28f) says she’s too shy, embarrassed and self conscious for that, and after 10 years I (34m) doubt that’s changing anytime soon… I just don’t have anyone to talk to about it and just wanted to vent. Maybe seek some success stories, has anybody’s partner been shy and gotten over it? How did you help? I think this is just who she is but fuuuuck, I wish she could see herself through my eyes because damn, she so sexy and I bet she looks amazing from that angle
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Just be careful. I had a boyfriend who was into face-sitting, and it was a large part of the reason I left him. I wasn’t against face-sitting at first, but godalmighty how boring it became!
It may have felt intimate from his point of view but I can tell you straight – sitting on someone’s face, staring at the wallpaper in the distance, and/or at his hands while he jerks himself off just in front of you, with no view of his face, and no actual involvement in what’s happening….. it was the very opposite of intimate, to me. The angle of his tongue would always make me come quite quickly, but it was a totally impersonal, ‘mechanical’, dehumanising orgasm for me, as part of a totally impersonal, dehumanising overall experience. And because once we started doing it it became such a kink/fetish for him, EVERY session inevitably ended up with him pleading for me to sit on his face, and me doing it just to shut him up and get the sex over with. I used to feel like an unpaid whore and/or a sex-toy made of flesh. It was a major factor in my leaving him.
Your experience may vary, of course, but although I remain kink-positive and very open-minded and libidinous, I know beyond a shadow of a doubt that if any man ever asks me to sit on his face again, I will put my clothes on and walk out for good. Such was the level of joylessness and dehumanisation I experienced from face-sitting.
[EDIT to correct a typo and also to clarify that he always wanted me sitting facing his feet, because he always wanted to finish by moving his tongue from my vulva to my bumhole. I’m rolling my eyes even writing that…. it was sooooo predictable, and sooooo isolating/lonely/joyless for me.]
How about starting slowly? For example, if she’s shy tell her you want to 69 with her on top with the lights off. Then if she’s feeling more confident ask about face sitting again but open the blinds a bit or a nightlight so it won’t be too dark. Again slow transitions.
My wife wasn’t into it either. Perhaps she’s still not, but I think she likes knowing that I find a part of her so irresistible. She enjoys seeing that I get rock hard as soon as she does it. And to make it interesting for herself, she just sits there and uses her vibrator. So it’s a win-win for both.
I think the key to getting your gf to that point is to work in stages. Maybe you wear a mask at first, so she doesn’t have to worry about you seeing her. And as she learns how much of a turn on it is for you, she may start warming up to the idea.