those who fell “love at first sight” in a public space, how did you know they were “the one” what about them caught your attention? Are you still together?

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1. There isn’t any “the one”.

2. I’ve only ever experienced that once and it was with a girl in high school. She was new and I was assigned to sit next to her in our maths class and I recall turning, making eye contact, and immediately feeling like I’d been hit in the soul.

   Never asked her out or anything, but I ended up sitting next to her in quite a lot of classes over the years due to our names being similar. She was awesome and has gone on to be really successful. Also turned out to be gay (or bisexual I don’t really know).

   But yeah, it was a trip. Never felt such an intense and entirely unexplainable obsession with another human being. I’m almost 30 now and despite last interacting with and seeing her almost a decade ago I still remember lots of random details about her that she told me.

   She gave me my first anxiety attack and I suspect she’s also the source of my interest in women with masculine attributes oddly enough as she was/is incredibly sporty and built like an athlete physically.

   Ah, what a memory. Honestly kind of glad that kind of attraction isn’t normal. If I felt like this about anyone who actually reciprocated interest in me I feel like I’d have such powerful rose-tinted glasses that I’d never be able to make rational decisions regarding them.

3. There is no love at first sight. That is, by definition, infatuation. Love doesn’t just describe the intensity of the feelings. Infatuation can be just as strong or stronger. Infatuation is when you have strong feelings towards the qualities you project onto a person. If you don’t know the person YOU CAN NOT LOVE THEM.

4. Funny thing is, being from a STEM background, the idea of love-at-first-sight seemed preposterous. So until it happens to you, I don’t think you can really appreciate how powerful it is.

   I saw her sitting in the back of a car as it pulled into my dad’s driveway, all I could see was a silhouette, but immediately my attention was focused. When she stepped out and I saw her, it was like tunnel vision. All I could see was her, everyone standing around me seemed to just slide away into a blur. I felt like I floated up to her and introduced myself, and she smiled and I felt like my heart was melting. We all went together as a group of friends to the zoo and she and I spent the whole time talking and wandering the place together. I knew I was going to propose to her and I did about 3 months later.

   Anyway, our 20th anniversary was last month and we went to the zoo. It was nice.