How did marriage counseling prepare you for your marriage?

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1. Learnt a few important lessons.

   That marriage is a Marathon! You have to keep pushing everyday to make it work

   fix the issue not the blame

   Don’t fight just to hurt each other.

   Better to walk away in the moment than stay and fight. BUT communicate that you are only walking away from the issue not the person.

2. It helps shed light on potential blind spots.

   Like budgeting, domestic tasks, and communication.

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   Pre-baby counseling is also similarly helpful.

3. We took premarital counseling, and we still use what we learned every day. It’s helped us tremendously. We were still great before being married but marriage was something I was still afraid of due to my parent’s divorce and not wanting to go through that myself. It helped take those fears away and just no longer put so much pressure on being married.

4. Pre marital consellling is my number one advice to people.

   Our pastor would not marry us before having several sessions with us to make sure we really wanted our marriage to work.

   We discovered so much about our views on life, family, and values. It’s what made us sure about each other.

   Had my husband not been the right man for me I would have known at this point but it made me 1000x more confident in him and our marriage

5. If your marriage (pre or post) counseling doesn’t focus on communication skills, you’re with the wrong counselor.

6. Do it! Marriage counseling helped us close culture gaps we didn’t even know existed where our values were the same on paper but not in practice.

   Having extra communication skills in your arsenal and a groundwork for how to approach big disagreements before they happen is also incredibly helpful.

   Most people wait until they are angry and resent each other before they go. My only regret is not going sooner.