He (M22) ordered me (F22) pajamas. He went to
pick them up. (30min away at his moms house) Was
mad when I didn’t try them on the day they arrived.
(Later that night/tonight) Says I’m ungrateful when
I’m simply not down to try them on tonight cause
first off I’m mad tired (had a terrible night of
insomnia before tn and STILL went for a run full
send) and am already hella comfy and just simply
will try them on soon but later? (Meaning like this
wknd lol) So because of this he says I’m ungrateful
and leaves me to sleep by myself while he goes to
living room to watch a random ass show he’s just
started at 12am when he has work at 9am. Wtf. He
says “I don’t want to cuddle u fully clothed”. I’m
wearing his hoodie, just a bra underneath, and some
cotton biker shorts. I’m MAD comfy yo. And on the
verge of falling asleep all day. Wtf is wrong with him.
Goodnight to me I guess.
Like I don’t like the fact that he sleeps fully naked (it annoys me) but I’m not gonna fuckin complain about that and wait till he falls asleep by himself in a bad mood after shutting the door saying goodnight after a weird ass talk. Like what. In the world…
TLDR;
My boyfriend bought me some sexy pajamas and was mad that I didn’t try them on the day they got here. Left me to sleep by myself and will probably only come to bed around 2am after I’m fully asleep. It’s 12am now. Feel kinda weird and sad about it. He made it weird. Idk. I told him multiple times I’m very tired and on the verge of falling asleep but I’ll definitely still try them on/wear them soon. (Like literally this upcoming weekend) he just tells me I’m “ungrateful” and that he will just return them because of that. I’m just confused
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Is he being a bell end? Yes
Is this gaslighting? Absolutely not
I think the word gaslighting has lost all meaning. He’s maybe rude or childish or something else but no gaslighting detected. And I get you don’t want to try it on but some people feel that gifts aren’t received well if the person isn’t showing them how much they like it or appreciate it or you can often think of a holiday you get gifts and you get a sweater from your grandma and she says try it on I went to see how it looks. Think your both making a mountain out of a mole hill.
Run from people like This.
Been there and dismissed these same kinds of statements as him having an off day/blaming myself as he wanted me to. He ended up being really dangerous and slowly escalated the verbal abuse to physical. there’s no reason for him to sulk, punish you or act like a child. You get someone a gift you give it to them out of unconditional love, they don’t have to earn it or prove they deserve it or use it when and how you want
What do you think gaslighting means?
Because this isn’t gaslighting. It’s just him being petulant and immature.
He’s a pain in the arse but this isn’t gaslighting. He obviously just wanted to have sex and you didn’t so he got pissed off. Decide how you act accordingly.
This is my take.
You stay up all night, but you use the little energy you have to go for a run (you are doing you, I get it it’s important… good stuff)
However, when it comes down to trying on pajamas, which should be the obvious choice for a tired woman who stayed up all night, went for a run and worked all day… you aren’t interested at all. His thoughtful kindness was dismissed and regarded as being selfish and childish.
Maybe, he saw how tired you were and wanted you to rest in comfort.
Just sayin’.