A little about me: 21 years old, half white, half Asian, sand-ish skin, 175cm tall (do the conversion if you want to), brown eyes, black hair, skinny and always below 70kg. Based on ratings of just my face alone people told me I’m a solid 7-8 out of 10, with these ratings coming from both men and women. This gives me some level of confidence, as I didn’t even start working out yet so I could increase that rating. I never had a date before, let alone a relationship.
I haven’t had any success with attracting people and I want to make a start because I’ve had enough of failure and just want to find a date already. I live in the Netherlands where men tend to be a lot taller than I am and from what I can say, women have ridiculously high standards here because of how tall the men can get, and the only thing that gives me hope is the fact that I know a man who is shorter than me who had a girlfriend that was taller than him. However, I’m only attracted to women who have shared interests, which to me is far more important than appearance, and I can’t really change that. I already tried one dating app but got no results, but to be fair this was a rather small dating app with less than 100.000 users. My primary interests are drawing, fantasy and writing, but for some reason I can’t find anyone who also harbors these interests. I don’t know if I should not care about dating, or if I should instead try to go all out, improve my appearance as if it were a full-time job and follow a strict diet in a country where most women are shorter than me, yet are attracted to men way taller than I am. The worst part is that I could do everything to improve my appearance and look perfect at the end of the day, but I can’t change my height so even after everything I could still not have any women be interested in me. And of course, I’m mixed race too, and race is definitely a factor in attractiveness here, even if people won’t tell you that.
With dating apps, things could potentially be different. I might not need to tell people how tall I am, and I could look for women who have common interests. However, I heard a lot of horror stories regarding dating apps mentioning that the majority of male profiles are simply ignored. Having already used a dating app, I could see this persisting, even if I switch to a different one. How does someone like me make a good start in dating? I don’t know anyone and I don’t have any wingmen to help me out.