To men who cheated – what do you think and feel about yourself when you get older and how does it influence your relationships?

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1. Cheated with someone. Made the mistake of falling in love with her. She won’t leave her husband bc he’s rich. Sucks.

2. Cheated and regret it all because now I deal with not being trusted

3. I have had a pretty crazy life when it came to women and sex. I don’t think full on monogamy was ever in the books for me due to my views and experiences right from the start.

   so yea I cheated a lot in my early twenties and into my mid twenties, (sometimes i was the other guy). I ended up with a lot of guilt, and some regret. mostly guilt. which lead to some personal demons that lead me to seek out more sex to give me the feeling of being in control. but that sex was empty, fun but left me feeling lonely, which made me seek more sex for the validation and not to feel lonely. took a lot of personal work until I found my happiness and a healthier understanding and relationship with women and sex.

   besides the cheating which i stopped after a loss and a few hook ups with taken women… i wasn’t ever a bad guy when it came to the relationships i had with women. i always respected them and was open and honest.

   all that said… today… i have a great understanding of sex, I still love it, i’m a highly sexual person, but i’ve learned to push boundaries safely and in a healthy way with my wife. Also the thought of cheating on her is basically anathema to me. She became my fantasy. and in all my other experiences with women, the good and the bad I did learn a lot and I think i am an excellent partner in all aspects of our life

4. I don’t think about it tbh. And No.

5. I feel bad for hurting my woman but thats about it. Not something I dwell on but it does make me question if monogamy is for me anymore.

6. She’s not committed to me, why should I feel committed to her? It goes both ways.

7. Of course, when a person cheats, he will never forget what he did wrong, so he will blame himself and it will affect your relationship because your partner will lose trust in you.