Hello. | am 19f (almost 20, virgin, afab) and I’ve never had an orgasm. | always kinda figured that was okay with it, because, you know its probably not the worst thing.
Lately, I’ve been hearing some of my female friends discuss sex and say how an orgasm is so amazing, best thing ever, etc. It makes me a lot depressed because I feel like I’m missing out on a really good thing in life.
Please suggest some foolproof methods to get an orgasm, or at least how to get over this “orgasm void” feeling.
For more context, I’ve tried using my hands, lube, vibrator to get myself to come. It does feel good on my clit, but I can’t quite get the pleasure to escalate. It’s like, while there’s direct contact, it feels good, but as soon as i stop, it also stops. No frustration, no pleasure, nothing. Also, I have vagisimus because | can’t fit anything bigger than a finger into my vagina.
PS. English is not my first language, pardon any errors.
3 comments
Try showerhead.
I dated a girl one time , and she would not reach climax in any way other than missionary sex.
After a little research, try and error.
We figured out it even wasnt the possition that was doing it for her.
It was the eye contact.
Im her own words : “I feel you closer and I get overflown by emotions”.
The relationship didnt work out for reasons dont related; but I put to the test my new knowledge, and it brings different results depending on the type of woman and your bond with her.
Maybe is not what you do , but how you feel.
Try to trick your brain into a different mind set/feeling and see what happens.
Why not get the vaginismus treated? That’s what pelvic floor physiotherapists exist for.