Hi. I’m married for 13 years. We have a seven year old child.
I’ve always thought of my husband as a good man.
But, lately I’m starting to wonder if he isn’t just weak.
He has never stood up for me, hates conflict.
Few examples. We wanted to move to a another country and his relatives invited us, but they turned out to be, well, evil. The woman started yelling at me, full force, and my husband did nothing. Even he excused my behavior. That was some years ago, bit it still doesn’t sit right with me. Btw, i said nothing wrong for the woman to yell so much.
I’m weaning off antidepressants, and we all caught a nasty stomach bug. First him, and lastly me. I felt so bad, my head spinning, vomiting, the whole shebang. And yet, he still went to work, left me alone with our child. He works as a waiter, it’s not like a career that would fall apart if he didn’t show up in a case like this. So, I was alone, barely hanging, i don’t know how i got through the day. And now we are not speaking. I’m not speaking to him, because i can’t even look at him. I don’t know what to do.
Would you have gone to work?
I don’t know if i am overreacting, if the weaning is making me insane, i just need objective take on the situation.
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*He works as a waiter, it’s not like a career that would fall apart if he didn’t show up in a case like this*
If anything, him being a waiter means going to work is going to be much more important for him, because he’s more likely to get fired for skipping.
Need more details on why the relative yelled and who it was.
You have a small child, my advice there would be to get the idea that just quitting/getting fired from a job is no big deal out of your head.
As far as him standing up, I as well would be upset if one of his family members was nasty to me or caused a scene at me. Being non confrontational isn’t always a good thing. But it’s been years. Don’t carry that weight with you. Let it go.
I had a few nasty Spats with my in laws (which they were blatantly in the wrong) so I honestly do get that.
If you have a sick child, he could’ve asked for the day off. I get that too but I think you’re letting some old shit get to you. You said you’re weaning off anti-depressants maybe that causing you to feel pretty upset more than something that happened years ago. Take care of yourself and tell him how it hurt you and felt like he didn’t support you or care.
Is he a man or a mouse?
Someone started shouting at my wife/partner/ spouse I have something to f’ing say