Hey guys. So I’ve recently started seeing a girl about a month ago and we’ve known each other and been friends for four years. Things moved really fast and it’s now clear that feelings have been caught on both sides. Recently my ex gf (which the relationship only ended because of distance issues after graduation and job placements. Although she didn’t want to move with me before she even had a job.) found out about her. We all have been friends in some capacity and had shared the same friend circle. Listening to how hurt she was after finding out about me moving on three months after we broke up made me realize how much I still love her. We were honestly perfect together and have so many crazy interests and even share the same birthday. I always saw a future with her and part of me really wants to get back with her. However she still isn’t wanting to move and I have secured a very competitive job at a fortune 100 company. She is still willing to wait until my contract is over but I am just confused on what to do. I also don’t want to her the new girl which I told everything to including that the part of me possibly wanting to get back with my ex. I have deep feelings for both of them and am tired of hurting them both and feeling like shit all the time. Any help you guys could provide would be great. Sorry for the long post.
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>However she still isn’t wanting to move and I have secured a very competitive job at a fortune 100 company. She is still willing to wait until my contract is over
How long is the contract? Is she expecting you to move back after your contract is done? What if she meets someone else during that time?
The red flag here is your ex only reached out to you after finding out about the new girl. That piece is what concerns me. Her jealously might be the issue here.
Hey chap. Sounds like you have a lot of pending feelings for your ex & this will definitely affect your potential relationship with the new girl.
You may need to take a step back and evaluate your priorities here, since your ex is clearly in your mind, you’re definitely not ready to move on and neither should you “wait out” any contract for the POTENTIAL reunion with the ex.