It’s so deflating. My gf just reacts negatively to any attempt to bring humour or play into the moment. It’s like this allll the time. I feel so incredibly unsatisfied. It doesn’t help that she pushes me away more often than not when I ask for some time with her. She just spends her time gaming, scrolling social media and talking to her friends. I don’t feel like I get much quality time with her. The only time I get is cuddles for maybe 15 minutes a day. But it feels empty without more to back it up. Would you put up with a relationship like this?
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Sounds like a doomed relationship tbh, if you cant even have some fun with your gf whats the point.
Sounds like a horrible waste of positivity and life in general – she can a) examine why she’s so constantly unfun/negative and work on it, or b) deal with it ending.
would speak to her and see why? maybe therapy will help, else i’m out.
Like a sexy moment? Some people like that to be more serious. But like day to day stuff? A large part of my appeal is humor. It sure as shit ain’t my chonky ass.
How did you become a couple? Like usually humor is the hook.
I used to be in a relationship with a girl who was on some anti-depressant that turned her into an emotionless zombie whenever she took it. I mean, if you care about someone you just have to be able to tolerate their idiosyncrasies. It helps, too, that I’m not the kind of person who needs to be validated by other people’s behavior.
I don’t want to sound mean but is there a reason you’re staying with her? she doesn’t have a sense of humour, she doesn’t want to spend time with you, you don’t get affection hardly at all….what is keeping you here?
Life is too short. Find someone more cuddly. definitely more cuddly.
My gf and I are constantly joking and playing around. I don’t think I’d be able to stand someone who wasn’t like that.
Get married and have kids of course.
So outside of the normal “break up with her” comment, is this something she is aware of?
Is this something you’d talked to her about? What was her response when it was brought up?
Because be mindful that one of the biggest reasons potentially salvageable relationships fail is due to lack of communication. You might feel this way, but she might not even realize that it might be a problem
Your girlfriend sounds single.
I would end it before it got too far
So…why are you in this relationship?
Sorry dude, but anyone who deflates you is not a long term prospect.
Just let her go.
Maybe she can grow and be a person who can uplift another?
Either way…that’s not you.
New girlfriend buddy.
Does she know she’s your girlfriend?
Sounds like a girl who just wants things from you to fill whatever void
How long have you been together? Has she always been this way, or is it a new development? If it’s new, I would try to see what caused the change, whether it’s something I did or something that has changed for her personally. Joking around is how I am the vast majority of the time and if that isn’t appreciated, coupled with the lack of intimacy, I don’t see how the relationship would work for me.
I’d have an honest and frank conversation about what I was looking for and what she was looking for. From your description, we (Me and her) wouldn’t be compatible and we would part as friends. Its possible though there’s something more going on. How busy is her life? has she got a ton of stuff she’s dealing with? how tired is she? how’s her health? Is there a way to support her and lift her load so she COULD relax a little?
The answers to those questions can only be found by talking to her.
So, where’s the attraction here?
Just out of curiosity what attracted you to her in the first place and what is it about you that attracts her?
by leaving.
my ex was this way and no wonder i developed depression. It* was like seeing an excited puppy get shunned to the cage for being happy, playful and expressive. just fucked up. save the puppy, run!
it really made me miss my previous ex too before this douche.. he made me feel like i had something no one else did and that he was the lucky one. seriously find someone who is in LOVE with that shit. 👏
I wouldn’t deal with it. She sounds like the sucker of souls.
Dump her
Exit the relationship asap.
Exit the relationship asap.
Depends on what “sense of humor” means to you. Sometimes people don’t like to get teased or aren’t in the mood to be roasted. Or maybe you just aren’t as funny as you think you are.
But regardless, she isn’t trying either so this relationship is definitely doomed.
If your idea of a relationship is having fun, then look for a fun woman.
Two things i absolutely required in a woman, she had to be smart and have a sense of humor. Everything else was negotiable.