Shes (20F) im (21M)
So I had this Girlfriend since 2018 and we were together for 5years and a month which we ended up just this july 8 2023.. we had all the good times. Hang out together, go to vacations, places. We always enjoy the company of each other. Our parents knew that we are were together since 2019 but didnt tell them about our breakup. She is a only child with only her mother because her father had another family so when there are heavy chores in their home or something they need help with I always try to go and help them anytime for I mostly have nothing to do.. In our relationships we have our ups and downs, but we always try to talk it over and try to fix it.. But this time just this july we broke up because she told me that she was “drained” or “exhausted” that staying in our relationship would only drain her more… We discussed about it and maybe she had her flaws and I had mine but I feel like I am more to blame in this relationship.
She told me that i was relying everything on her too much, she said I was missing too many opportunities because I was too much focused on her that I was not doing some things for me or for my own future (like I only got too much obsessed to her that I forgot to do something for my own development) She’s like “what if I suddenly dissapeared in your life? How would you live your life? What do you plan to do?” And after I heard that I was shocked because I never even thought of that happening, I realized that just until our breakup when we discussed over it, I was so dumb that we broke up because of that and we really do not want to end our relationship but as much as I respect her, I told her to decide and she chose to broke up with me for out own good because if we were to continue our relationship it would only become toxic for she is too “drained” to continue and just told me to do something for myself so she would do something for her… I felt really bad for my mistake and I want to get back to her no matter what, even if it takes my own life. I am now doing everything that I want to do for my own good in hopes she sees that I am now trying to change and try to see me as I was when she met me.. We broke up in a way that we stayed as friends and we hangout maybe 3x a week but only as friends now.. for now we are hurt due to our breakup and I cant bear to see her struggling for she is drained and I am the cause of it, I would like to help her get back up on her feet and try to rekindle our relationship and to make up for my mistakes