Okay maybe I’m overreacting BUT my husband (33) saw a coworker that he hadn’t seen in a very long time (3 years or so) and she (this is what he told me and I believe him) made advances. First she started of telling him how “good he looked.” Saying he’s aged nicely, that he’s so handsome etc. Then she got close to him and out her hand on his shoulder while still complimenting him. She did that numerous times UNTIL husband instinctively was about to put his arm around her (he does this to me a lot) and freaked out and pretty much backed away showing his body language to be uncomfortable. HOWEVER he never explicitly rejected her advances. He didn’t say he was uncomfortable, he didn’t tell her he wasn’t interested nor did he mention he was married. IMO any of this would have been better than to say body language is suffice. He thinks otherwise (body language is enough). How we he admits he told me because he felt “guilty” which is weird cus why feel guilty if you think you did everything right?
So, I need help evaluating whether me wanting him to verbally clarify to her that he’s not interested is too much to ask for. Please help.
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I guess I can see how it’s kind of weird to offer up “I’m not interested” when she’s being subtle, but it’s not that weird for him to tell her in simple terms how he’s been doing and work the “I’m married to a wonderful woman” into the conversation.