Ok the title sounds a lot worse than it actually is. So let’s start from the beginning. My(21NB) partner(22M) and one of my closest friends(18NB) used to be pals months ago. The tension started back in february where, my friend, as a joke, sent a sexually explicit meme (it was a block of text. i can post it here if i need to) that was a lil graphic. partner really didnt like that and claimed it was sexual assault. I originally was like “ok, maybe, whatever” but my friend recently pointed out that my partner said, on a previous call before the meme was sent, said that they want to give a character “the most toe curling, eye-rolling head.” friend said this is why they thought it was fine, along with the fact that they’re both adults and they’re friends.
please tell me who the fuck to go with here because i am so lost on this. is that sexual assault even? is this an overreaction? I feel like partner could have said “i dont like it when you send me porn” and that would be it, but they accused friend of sexual harassment and friend is super freaking pissed.
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There’s a lot we don’t know here so I’m going to ask some clarifying questions.
Was there anything actually funny about the text? Or is it like a section from 50 shades of Grey? Has the friend sent anything like this to you or anyone else you know?
Things escalated quite quickly, and yes things could have been communicated differently, but in the end I don’t think this is the kind of situation that can be recovered from. Not with the way both have reacted.
Sexual assault? Was he forced to read the text to completion? What a fucking joke
From the way you’re describing it, it sounds like it shouldn’t be a huge deal. If the meme wasn’t seriously weird, and your partner and this person were friends when it happened, then it should have been a simple conversation about how your partner was feeling, and not being comfortable with how your friend acted. So either your partner is overreacting to a certain degree, he has sexual trauma he hasn’t told you about, or you and your friend have a much lower threshold for what you think is appropriate than your partner does. I am really curious what this meme was though?