Myself and my wife (34) have been married almost 10 years and honestly have a good overall sex life so I am by no means complaining. Even with having 3 young children our sex life has always been good.
Recently though we have just been engaging more sexually which is fine with me given I have a very high sex drive and she enjoys it as well . I find that it’s creating a weird feeling though where I just continue to want more and more the more we engage in sex. As sexual as she is , outside of just sex we don’t explore too much else ( again not a complaint )
I am starting to get to the point where I’m fantasizing about doing things with her that we haven’t tried before or don’t do much of but I’m trying to approach the subject to her without sounding too overbearing or demanding since I’m certainly not dissatisfied. I just don’t want to ruin a good dynamic we have sexually . Any advice would be much welcomed !
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Remind her how much your love her, and how grateful you are for such an amazing wife. Ask her if she is happy with the size life and if she is open to exploring more. She will ask what tou have in mind, and you can be honest. Tell her that these are just ideas and in no means that your are not happy.
My wife was so conservative when we met that I had to teach her how to do doggy style.
Today, we do LOTS of kinky stuff in the bedroom.
You can cross this gap, but you need to do it slowly and with a lot of communication.
Toys can be super intimidating so starting without them is usually a good idea.
My wife’s breakthrough moment was when I decided to give her oral combined with the 2 finger hook combined with 1 finger in her butt. She was a bit of a fan of this. Something clicked in her mind after this and she actually started asking me to do kinky stuff to her.
My husband will randomly say “I want to try something” and I know I’m in for a ride. If your relationship is built on unending trust then this should be all it takes.
Good luck.
Just be like:
“Hey babe I love our sex life lately and I think about our recent romps and it makes me horny immediately. Then my fantasies start running wild and I think it’s because I’m just so sexually happy. Are you happy too? Do you mind if I share some fun things that popped into my head to see if they turn you on too?”
Learn to communicate properly. Voicing your desires doesn’t have to be “overbearing or demanding”. “What do you think about trying XYZ” instead of “LIE BACK AND DO XYZ”. Two completely different methods. In truth, both are appropriate with the right partner but one can be horribly wrong with the wrong partner.
Don’t take this wrong but it always blows me away when people who are sexually active (or married for any amount of time) are afraid to communicate with their loved one. They have done the most intimate thing possible with them yet they are afraid to verbalize desires or needs.