What steps have you taken to de-center men in your life?

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1. Can you clarify what you mean? I don’t believe I’ve ever centered men in my life to begin with, so I’m not sure if I’m interpreting your question correctly.

2. Trauma therapy to address some so-called “daddy issues.”

3. None. Men were never the center of my life.

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5. If you literally mean “men being the center of one’s life” then the answer is none because they never were.

6. I went the opposite way and have men literally be the center of my life as I married a man and then birthed two human males. Also my dog is male.

7. I feel like I never really centered men much in my life, but a few years ago I made the conscious choice to just not date men anymore (I’m bi so that was an option) and it’s been really nice. And also just generally I spend very little time with men. I have a few male friends, but like 95% of the people I talk to and spend time with are women.

8. Realizing their bad behaviors are deep rooted in their lower opinions about women. And the way you want to live shouldn’t effect how someone sees you. And if you find that men view you as less for leading a normal ass human life. It’s a them issue not a YOU issue.

   Guys who want noncommittal attachments but emotionally manipulate and entertain situationships are deeply flawed and don’t view you as a whole person. And when you see that it gives you the ick real quick. They are wanting to dehumanize and demoralize you to make you feel less so they can keep doing bad behavior. By having you feel like you’re not enough and tolerating intolerable behavior they can perpetuate their low opinions about women as a whole. That they only see the utility of you and how to use you. And that makes you definitely want to de-center them. Feel privileged to use you for their own means.

   Live your life. And don’t worry what they think. The right one won’t give a shit.

9. I haven’t bc I love them

10. men have never been the centre of my life. this is not uncommon i dont understand what you mean

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12. Just started to make plans and do things that I find fun, and being honest about where my desire comes from. Like if I sign up for kickboxing classes or photography classes, or if I want to get into investing and so on, I make sure it’s because that’s what I need to focus on now or because I genuinely want to, and not because I am focused on the perks of being noticed or impressed by others.