I (25M) have never had a gf or sex in general. No it’s not a choice. I have been rejected and ghosted my whole life. I hate how I can’t blame anyone but myself.
A month ago I got a match on hinge. We messaged everyday for a month. It was the longest conversation I ever had on hinge. It took a while for me to ask to meet in person because I was moving to the city. She said she loved talking to me. I said I loved talking to her. We agreed to meet this weekend. She didn’t reply for three days after. I sent a follow up text. The next day she unmatched. Why waste my time messaging every day for a month and agree to a date and then unmatch?
Am I really that undesirable?
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I’ve had the same thing happen to me, man. Though mine was for a week, not the extent of a month. Idk why some girls do this, but it really is disheartening. Your best bet might be to just delete dating apps, as I did.
Of course, take it with a grain of salt, I’m only 21 myself, and single as well 😂
It’s called a distraction, clearly you were her distraction/validation and it was fine as long as y’all stayed pen pals.
I think a lot of people need to realize that if you don’t make a move within a week(hanging out, trying to kiss, etc.) the chicks will lose interest cause tbh, in todays world of OLD, she can have another you tomorrow, you just have to be willing to show her that there is no other you, and you know you’re the shit with/without her validation
Just take a break from apps every now and then, don’t take it as serious. Whatever happens, happens. You’ll eventually find the right person if that’s what you want.
That sucks, try and keep in mind this is more of a reflection of her than it is of you.