TLDR: mini crush on friend that neither of us will act on, she’s leaving, should I tell her?
Hey so my friend is leaving the country, got a dream gig, isn’t coming back. I’m in a committed relationship, she’s in a committed relationship, but thecre’s a little part of me that feels in a different world we could have been a thing. She’s awesome, so smart and lovely to be around. Nothing has ever happened between us, except maybe a bit more affection that I’d expect from a friend (coming from her), like resting her hand on my thigh for a little while, close physical proximity, like leaning in over your shoulder etc. She’s leaving soon and I wonder if it would be weird to mention the little friend crush I’ve kinda go? I know neither of us would do anything about it. But just to see if it was mutual?
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Don’t tell her. She’s leaving and not coming back. You telling her about your crush would be disrespectful to your girlfriend AND your friend. Nothing good would come out of your confession, it would just confuse your friend. And I’d be thinking, why is he telling me this now, when I’m leaving, and why open that can of worms now?
What is your intention in wanting to tell her?
> I’m in a committed relationship
Absolutely not. And thank your lucky stars that she’s leaving, because you were well on your way to infidelity with this person around, and it’s troublesome that you don’t seem to realize that at all. I hope you’d like it if your girlfriend were behaving the same way with a male friend.
Thats a really dumb idea