Hi! Me [20F] and my bf [22M] have a great sexual relationship going on and we have been together for 6 months, but he could never really go for a round 2 during sex. Not saying this is detrimental in any way, I understand guys have a longer refractory period, and once he’s came, he’s out. However, sometimes like when I give him a bj and he cums, I’ll touch the head and he gets extremely sensitive, which is interesting. I think I feel like that too on my clit, but personally, I like it, but he can’t stand it because it’s too overwhelming. Kinda shucks bc I would love to give him a bj after sex, but he’d already be tapped out. Also, sometimes sex with him doesn’t last too long, so even tho he’s made me orgasm a couple of times, it seems like I can go on for more. So, it just makes me think damn, would love to go down on him but I can’t.
So I was just wondering that is it like this for most men?
Also, this guy used to nut more frequently throughout the day, but since he’s stopped watching porn (after a few weeks of knowing each other), he can only tolerate the one nut and done. I wonder if he could build that tolerance back up, but ofc, that’s beyond both of our controls.
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Many of us ARE quite…delicate after blowing.
However, it doesn’t hurt that you try to find out if there is a gentle technique that he can enjoy. Because that is kind of the trick. Switch to a gentler and slower technique, and he may appreciate it anyway.
Tell him as it is, you want to learn to care for him after, in a way that he can handle. So that he knows to hold back on his first reaction a bit. With some luck, he’ll learn to really love it.
If he allows you to figure this out, reward him by showing him that an erection is technically speaking not a necessity to get him off. (softies ALSO prefer a gentler technique, worth to point out.)
I think, if you look at this with a bit of humour, that if you ask him if you are allowed to find out how to get him off several times the same day…he is going to wonder what kind of divine creature you are and what you are doing in his life. Be honest about your intentions. Be gentle in what you are doing, and you two may have quite a good time with it.
We are sensitive after cumming. But I love when my wife sucks me after. Gets me up again.
You can def build that tolerance back up!
IF he is open to it, don’t cross any of his boundaries.
But, I do “post orgasm torture” – yes, my partner is slightly uncomfortable in the beginning but just like any training it hurts the first time, but the more you do it the better at it you get.
Sometimes he’ll cum again from the “POT”, sometimes not, and the activity is just to build up his strength 🙂
Also, why not wait a good while between rounds? My partner and I watch porn in between, but if you don’t want to do that, I’m sure there’s another sexy activity? Shower together, massage, maybe?
Please don’t “settle” when it comes to your sex life. You’re still so young and there’s LOTS for you to explore! Think about it like working out, no-one starts off being able to do squats and planks, we work at it, we train our bodies and we become better – it’s the same with sex.
Most things are in your control! Try something new 🙂
For me is not that bad. I can have a woman keep my cock in her mouth after cumming inside, and I quite enjoy the feeling. Sometimes I do get the “omg I need you to remove the mouth right away” because the sensation gets too overwhelming, but I’d say this is rare for me to happen.
One of top fantasies would be a girl that can keep my cock in her mouth after my cum and continue there until I cum again. Never found someone who could do it.
Some guys enjoy the feeling, and maybe you can find a way to play that isn’t too sensitive for him! (If he’s up for it.)
At least you know for certain that he hasn’t death gripped his dick to death! That’s becoming so much more common.
We do get sensitive after coming, and lack energy or drive for a while. I suppose that is to make it easier for the female after we’ve come. In my 20’s I did once continue thrusting and went to another orgasm after 20 minutes but That was then not now and not at all easy to do. Some men can cope with a little stimulation, but most need time out.
Im way too sensitive after coming, its just not fun.
Everyone is different.
Rather than more sensitive I feel quite the opposite, grab a drink of water and a 5 minute break then things could continue- but mostly just for her benefit at that point as its extra thick but only like 90% firm and not very sensitive to sensation. Round 2 is possible, but could take 15-30 minutes. Age and cut vs uncut probably factors here as well.
The speed I go from “this feels amazing” to “Oh GOD DONT TOUCH ME!” is really amazing. The first time my wife finished me with her hand, she crossed that threshold and I let out this panicked yelp that didn’t even sound human. The sensitivity doesn’t last terribly long but unfortunately it’s just long enough for me to loose absolutely any and all interest in doing anything further. That’s why I always take care of her first.
The more intense my orgasm, the more sensitive the tip of my cock is immediately after orgasm.
If he is willing to try it, I enjoy ruining an orgasm and then being able to tolerate/enjoy oral after sex. The interesting thing for me is after a ruined orgasm, my refractory period is nearly nothing.
Immediately it’s too sensitive. But after a minute I can take some stimulation and ramp it up from there. I just may not get hard for another ten mins or how ever long my refractory period says so.