I was with my first partner ever for 9 years. In all those years I only had one single orgasm thorough penetration. Having orgasms while being stimulated on the outside and fingered was not an issue, but I have a weird way of coming… while on my back, lifting my body, contract my legs and tightening up. The muscle in my legs would always hurt the next day, especially if I had multiple.
Also, I can come if I use a vibrator on my clit while standing up and contracting my legs close to each other.
I want to move things further with my second partner, but I’m super scared I won’t be able to orgasm through penetration and he will either feel bad or find the way I can do it weird. I do feel amazing pleasure from penetration, feeling this pleasant itch that needs to be scratched.
Is there any way I can work on this, so I can be able to orgasm through penetration? Or at least without being that weird đ
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I have not managed to find any exercises that help, but need to be in the right mood and super horny. Also I need the right position and the right rhythm. My partner will cheat by fingering to almost the point of no return and I will quickly get his penis in from behind and hopefully we can cum together, which is the best. I find from behind has the best chance as I can really squeeze my thighs and that rubs my clitoris. I guess I do have quite strong thighs, so lots of walking helps.
Masturbating or using a toy during sex is a very normal way to orgasm, and may help you here. Sex often happens in positions neither partner customarily masturbates in. Consider slowly training yourself to masturbate in positions other than the ones you are used to orgasming in. Getting used to the feeling of masturbating and orgasming while in different positions may help you get used to them enough to orgasm during sex in those positions as well.
Also donât worry about orgasming âweird.â Orgasms are ALWAYS weird! We temporarily lose control of our bodies, convulse, pull strange faces, our toes curl and we spasm involuntarily. Orgasms are just weird full-stop- you are not doing anything wrong or weird with the way you orgasm, but switching positions is always a little awkward. Donât be embarrassed about what makes you cum:-)