Like I mentioned I do not have an interesting life and so if I want to start or keep a conversation going, how should I do it?

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  2. Clever things about movies. Recent craziness in the news. Show pictures of cute animals. If all else fails, memorize and practice jokes.

  3. Conversations require two parts:

    You asking questions because you genuinely want to learn about other people.

    You offering up your experiences and opinions.

    Although a secret third part is sharing people’s stories with other people. “You’re a photographer? My teacher is a photographer. Can I share his website?” “You like baking? Have you ever seen this YouTube clip from that one popular show?”

  5. Change your paradigm: don’t try to always be “interesting,” instead try to be interested.

    Think of it like this: say you met a gardener at a social event. Are you going to have dozens of stories prepared to talk to that one person about gardening? What happens when you’re done with that conversation and the next person is passionate about snowboarding? Are you going to have dozens more stories on hand for all your snowboarding experiences? Now imagine a room with hundreds of people, each with different interests, passions, and hobbies. Are you going to have “interesting” stories for every single passion, hobby, or interest of theirs? What happens if you meet a guy who’s climbed Mt Everest? Are you going to have an equally interesting story, or something that tops that story, for every single person you meet? Imagine how exhausting it would be to be “interesting” to everyone you meet.

    Now, what if you approached every conversation as an interested novice? “Hey, I don’t know much about gardening, but tell me what got you into that? What’s your favorite plant? What’s your favorite month of the year for your garden? etc etc.”

    *See what I’m getting at*? You can either collect thousands of stories for every conceivable situation, and have them prepared and ready for each person you meet, **<OR>** you accept you won’t be interesting to every single person you meet, and instead be interested in what other people are passionate about. You’ll be surprised how many people think you’re interesting, not because you have all these amazing stories, but that you’re actually curious what other people are passionate about.

  7. Deflect deflect deflect lol I think I’d make a great interviewer because I can just keep the flow of convo/questions going for hours. There’s so many things to ask and I genuinely love getting to know people! I will say it gets a little difficult when it’s someone I’m not close with and have nothing in common with, but that I see a few times a year. For example my brother in law, convos with him are like pulling teeth. Every time we see each other “so… anything new?” Not really. “Watch any new shows?” I don’t watch tv. “Read any good books?” No. Like give me SOMETHING to work with! At that point I kind of assume it’s intentional and they don’t want to chat with me and I’ll move on

  8. I used to have this mentality, but I learned that you literally don’t have to have a life to be a good conversationalist, you just need to learn how to talk about anything. So what I mean is, find little things that you do in the day to make a conversation about. For example, if you enjoy watching TV, introduce the convo to the person like this, hey insert name, have you seen insert show before? If they haven’t explain what you like about it, what it’s about and then you can transition to asking what do you do for fun? Also it’s not abnormal to have nothing to say, I’ve seen people not know what to say to someone about stuff when they know very little about something so they just reply with Oh, okay then and go silent hoping the other person reads them and understands they don’t know much about what their talking about and that’s a cue to try something different, it doesn’t make you weird on either end. I hope this helps, feel free to ask questions. I’m not perfect either, but this is just stuff I’ve learned so far.

  9. Talk about whatever hobby you’re most passionate about, or daydream out loud about things you’d like to do.

  10. You don’t have to talk about your life. Talk about something you and the other person can both relate to or have in common

  11. I have done a couple of “interesting” things in my life and have a few “interesting” stories (that sounds way dodgier than I intended it) and I find they don’t make for very good conversation. By all means, do some things and get a few stories, but they won’t be the bread and butter of conversation.

    Like everyone else says, being interested is way more powerful and versatile socially.

    I’ll throw in another tactic I like, take an interest in the other person’s *judgement*. What makes a *good* movie? *Why* are *you* into cars? How is *your* take on Hamlet unique or different?

  12. Current events, news, celebrities (ugh), opinions on a variety of topics. Talk about cheese and which are your favourites. So many, many things to talk about.

  13. Talk about things you enjoy

    Things you want to do

    Hey did you hear… keep up on current events and have 3 interesting subjects in your pocket every time you go out

    What do you think about….. a situation, clothing while shopping, etc

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    And if you blow all that…….. just say hey and smile. At least you’re being social even if it goes nowhere. And don’t just target the opposite gender. Be friendly to all.

    I paddleboard weekends and holidays and say morning or hey to everyone I cross paths with. By the time I’m out of the water, I’m on fire socially. Totally out of my shell, and have had some fun conversations with people after.

  17. Talk about your intrests. Ask questions(people love 2 talk about themselves. Get a less boring life so you more stuff 2 talk about.

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