I’m usually happy being single, but every now and then I get in my feels. Now is one of them.
I feel like I have so much love to give, but no one to share it with. I (29M) want a partner so badly. But the mere thought of using dating apps and/or doing cold approaches (which I’ve done many of) is so off putting. And that’s just at the starting stages. Ghosting, cheating, emotional unavailability, etc. are other things that add to that. I’m repulsed by all that so much that it kills the desire to pursue women. But that doesn’t kill the desire to want to be in a relationship.
Maybe I’m just being stubborn wanting a perfect relationship handed to me with zero work. Perhaps I’ll grow out of it, maybe not. Maybe others deal with it as well? Is there a name for this experience?
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Many people go through similar feelings of wanting companionship without wanting to deal with the potential difficulties involved in finding a partner. While there may not be a specific name for this experience, it’s common for individuals to desire a relationship without wanting to go through all the traditional dating processes.
It’s important to remember that relationships, like many aspects of life, often require effort, compromise, and patience. While it’s natural to desire a fulfilling partnership, it’s also essential to have realistic expectations and understand that finding the right person and building a healthy relationship may take time.
If dating apps and cold approaches don’t appeal to you, there are alternative ways to meet potential partners. Consider expanding your social circle, participating in activities and hobbies that interest you, or exploring communities and groups where you may meet like-minded individuals. Building connections based on shared interests can create a more solid foundation for a relationship.
Additionally, it can be helpful to work on personal growth and self-improvement during times of singleness. This can involve developing your own interests, focusing on self-care, and fostering meaningful friendships. Cultivating a fulfilling life outside of a relationship can help you feel more content and confident, which may, in turn, make the dating process more enjoyable when you decide to engage with it again.
Remember, no relationship is perfect, and every partnership requires effort and communication. Being open-minded and willing to navigate the challenges that may arise is part of the journey toward a healthy and loving relationship.
Ppl are real and flawed so I think your ideal is holding you back. Even if you put in a ton of work and find someone amazing, it’s still going to be a lot of work ongoing and they will have flaws, sometimes a lot of flaws. Idk but I think maybe being a bit more realistic could help you