I’ve been in the dating scene for a little bit now since my long term relationship ended. We split up over grief but if we stayed together I would of been with my peers probably married with kids. I won’t lie it’s been rough and I’ve been trying gain my inner confidence back putting myself back out there. I’m very fit, look young for my age but I’m very insecure about my age. F33.

Many people mistaken me for being 26 or 27. I feel I’m getting rejected over it and I won’t lie, it really hurts. It’s something out of my control and I just don’t know how to adjust my mind frame around this where it doesn’t affect me.

What are your thoughts?

39 comments

  1. you’re not being rejected due to your age unless you look like a grandma or a child. They’re rejecting you because they’re not into you.

  2. If it makes you feel any better, I’m 20 and I’d date a woman in their 30s. It’s not really a preference, it’s more like age largely doesn’t matter to me personally.

  4. I honestly feel like the 30s are the golden age for women. You can meet men in their mid twenties all the way to their early 40s. You have such a large net to cast and find your person.

    Don’t discriminate men for their age either and karma will treat you well. Focus on the energy and the feeling you get from a guy. He could be 25 or he could be 45. If you don’t want your age to be a big deal, don’t make it a big deal for men.

    Go out. Have fun. Live in the moment. You’ll find someone. Good luck

  8. I’m 30 and my boyfriend is 26. They’re out there, but they’re often younger. Prepare to get called an “older woman.”

  9. Yes there are men who would prefer a woman in their thirties but more likely than not they will be older than you.

  10. Depends if guys want to start families. They’ll hedge their bets on younger women if they can afford to

  11. I LOVE women in their 30s. They’re (usually) more mature than their younger counterparts, and their sex drive is insane.

    I may be biased because I’m 35 but I’ve always been attracted to women in this age range

  12. Here M18, I prefer older women because they are more mature, expirenced and mostly I feel like I could have a better conversation with an older woman than someone my age.

  13. Im 36F and no man wants to take me seriously even though I don’t even have sexy pictures on my profile. They all want women under 30, it’s a shame! I’m giving up and tired of this ageist society.

  14. You are at the perfect age for dating, and I think you are in the prime of your life. You have some life experience, and I am guessing have a lot going for you. I am not sure what people are looking for as I can’t speak for others, but as a male a little older than that, it seems like the perfect age.

  15. Since I was a kid (12ish), I’ve always been obsessed with women in their 30’s and older women in general. Sounds weird but hear me out.

    You’re old enough to know better, but young enough to still have fun AND also have the means, money, time and confidence to do it. You’re established in your career and if not, can pivot well. Effectively, you start becoming a *woman* in your 30’s. I’m 29 now and so excited to be around the age of women hitting their stride. It’s such an incredibly sexy alure that I can’t precisely put my finger on.

  16. I’m 36 M, and I’m seeing a few women at the moment 33 and 35. Only a few dates and in the getting to know you stage. Dating in this age range is ideal for me. Men & Women in their mid-to-late 20’s are still trying to find themselves, as this is the age where careers are starting to form. It’s a lot more hectic period in life.

    31/32 and up, career is more advanced. Lives more settled. Traveled(hopefully).Bad relationships are behind them. Matured and ready for the real thing. Love wine and staying in 🙂

    I can’t go younger. I feel too out of place and I need someone to get my jokes

  17. In the last couple of years I (42m) have had the best luck with women between 30 and 35.

  18. As 33 male, I generally want someone closer to my age, late 20s to late 30s , with a preference for someone in their 30s. Sometimes just that transition into one’s 30s starts to change one’s perspective.

  20. I really don’t think you are getting rejected because of your age, I am 35f and currently not actively trying to date, but when I do, I have no problem getting dates, from a few years younger to older. I have had men in the early 20’s interested, which is way to young for my taste. But I think they just aren’t interested in you, which is okay, because there will be plenty of people who are. Besides, you wouldn’t really want them if age matters that much to them, because what happens when you get even older, you would have to worry about them looking younger again. Don’t stress to much over it, our 30’s can be a really great time,

  22. I’m 29 and would have no age related hesitations on dating someone who is 33. Age isn’t something that rules people out for me. Exercising regularly and maintaining a healthy weight rules most out before anything else.

    Also, your question on “why are you still single”. I get the same comments frequently enough, so I know the feeling. There doesn’t seem to be one universal meaning behind the question unfortunately, at least from my personal experience.

    Also, also your TE progress! Wow! (I’ve been working through TE myself this year)

  23. In theory, I prefer women in their early 30s since I’m in my mid thirties. The physical attraction is there if they take care of themselves, and it’d be real nice to have someone on the same wavelength.

    Actually trying to find one who clicks with me though, I’ve found that a lot of women in their 30s have truly grotesque standards that turn me off even when I meet those standards. At which point I have to ask why I’m bothering when I can find a younger woman who’s prettier and doesn’t have such absolutely massive demands of me. I really hate dating tire kicking “checkbox” type women, and I’ve found that 30+ ladies tend to be more likely to be that sort.

    I still think a woman can absolutely compensate for age with a stellar personality. It just seems pretty rare to actually happen. Mostly, at least in my own experience, it feels like women in their 30s expect more than women in their 20s while also offering less of things I as a guy actually care about. Like, if a woman is gonna try and make her great career a selling point while also demanding that I plan and pay for all dates, I’m gonna feel a little put out, you know?

    Which means that in cases like yours, I would see your age and think “…Proceed with caution.” I might still go for it, especially if your vibe feels younger, but I’ve been burned in the past by women over 30, so I’m more cautious.

  24. I prefer younger because I look really young as well. I’m also in my early 30’s. The problem with dating younger is a lot aren’t ready to settle down, and a lot end up being immature. I look even younger than 26/27 😭 I’m carded at damn movie theaters still, and have always looked the same age or younger than my ex bf’s. The struggle is real.

  28. I truly love women of all ages 18+. Every decade, every year has something unique to offer. If we’re talking strictly “hot” here, I recently slept with my friends insanely hot mom who is 59, and it was by far the hottest experience of my life, and she was more than most women in their 20’s. I also had a great experience with a 23 year old (I’m 32). So it’s just more about the person and what you’re in the mood for at the time imho.

  29. I would date someone I find attractive thats 30+. 50 might be my actual limit. But I feel you on the part where you feel you’re being rejected for it and that its something out of your control. I could say its not true but I’d be lying, for things like this just keep trudging along and try to think of other reasons why. Thats what I try to do and give myself something to work on. Its a temporary fix but if you constantly have something new to work on then you’ll be fine.

  30. If a man rejects a woman because she’s “too old” at 33, it’s not a man you want to date anyway. He’ll always prefer young women in their 20s, and there’s no future in that kind of relationship. Kind of like Leonardo DiCaprio. Or your fertility is *really* important, and that’s like treating you as a life support for a uterus. When these men are too old to get young women easily, they’ll have to “settle” and treat their SOs like crap because they are aging, as humans tend to do.

    Focus on the positive guys who care about other things besides your age and physical appearance.

  31. I’m 38f with an aging face, slim but not fit and sort of deflated tits and I was very insecure about it. Until I got 3k men trying to match me on Tinder within a month and I get dates with just about anyone I’ve picked out. All have asked for more dates. But I’m also cool 😎

    All my bragging is to say, I find it unlikely you’re being rejected because of your age. Maybe your profile is underwhelming, or your conversation skills need some polishing, or you don’t seem fun? And what do you mean by you’re getting rejected? Like you ask them on dates and they say no or the people you match with don’t match back? Or they aren’t asking for a second date?

  32. I’m 38 years old and and I meet more people now than ever at anytime in my life. I have never used a dating app though.

  33. I’m a 28 year old guy, about to finish up a nursing degree.

    I’d say I’d actively prefer people over 30. Younger people are just as cool but I find there’s a higher chance of immaturity and less commitment which I dislike if I’m trying to date

  36. 33 is young. And healthy minded men in their 30s are interested in women in their 30s.

  37. 30-36 has always been the best I think mature and still have plenty of fun with outdoors and easy to keep a relationship going with also are always the most attractive to me so I don’t think you should be insecure at all !

  38. This is my issue at first
    I even gave up at first, feeling that at 30 no man would want me anymore
    I used to think that women at 30 are already considered old and stale
    But God gave me a good man
    He chased me
    Now he claimed me as his girl
    First ever in my life that a man would call me as his girl
    Love my William to bits ❤️
    Im grateful to God Almighty ❤️🤲🏻

    Dont give up girl, pray to God for the one you want and He will definitely help.

  39. Age is not eyes on target, connecting, vibing and sexual intamentacy talking on the phone helps 100percent

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