He said he’s never gonna go down on me

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1. I would just ask him why and let him know that it’s something you would want. If he denies your request, you just have to figure out if that’s something you’re okay with indefinitely

2. That would be a deal breaker for me – most women can’t finish from just sex so it’s crazy to me he refuses to do it! Most guys loveeee doing it so you won’t struggle to find someone who will if this guy won’t.

3. Some people just don’t go down. It’s weird but it is what it is. It can be hard to accept cuz at least imo it makes you feel undesired, esp when you know how normal it is to be enthusiastic about it.

4. Don’t settle. Flat out ask. If he’s not going to do it. Time to move on. You’ll be happier later.

5. My favorite activity and this guy wasting good 🐱

6. Please never go down on him. Please

7. He dj Khaled ?

8. Some people aren’t comfortable or like going down on others. It isn’t too abnormal. However, if they expect you to go down, but won’t in return, that’s awful.

   ALSO, foreplay can still happen and be wonderful without oral sex. Fingers and toys are great.

9. Sounds like a fucking rip off, get ya money back girl…

10. Some people don’t like to do it and that’s his right. And it’s your right for that to be a dealbreaker for you don’t think too much on it. He may just not enjoy the act of it.

11. I personally love goin down on a woman. I think I get more pleasure from it then she would, but I also love for a woman to do the same. If he doesn’t want to then you don’t do it for him, plain and simple, or find a guy who wants to do it.

12. I caution taking advice from ppl on reddit when they say if they’re not willing to do X then break it off. They don’t know the connection you’ve established and how you proceed is entirely your decision. This is something that is important to you, please talk to your partner about it. If he’s a solid person, he’ll be respectful and will be present because he cares.

13. Lot of people asking him to justify why he said no.

    I just think it’s personal preference if he doesn’t like it and you try and force him it will feel awkward.

    Personally I go down on my gf cause I love doing it and love getting her off on it.

14. I’d request a little more explanation or discussion at very least. Oral is fairly mainstream these days, it’s not like you’re asking him to eat ass or something. Maybe find out if there’s something you could do to make it more appealing for him.

15. He’s probably had a bad experience or some people don’t like giving oral! It’s not that big of a deal as long as he makes you cum in other ways

16. Does he expect you to give him head? Unless that’s a resounding no to match his lack of enthusiasm then I’d bin him off and find another guy, esp when it’s something you clearly enjoy and need long term

17. Ask him why. If you’re not satisfied with his answer or the situation in general, there is no harm in looking for someone else.

    It’s a matter of preference and comfort at the end of the day. Look at the shit ton of women who don’t like giving blowjobs.

18. 🫤 I’d never have sex with him.
    He’s all about his own pleasure, he doesn’t give a fried chicken fuck about yours.
    Save your virginity for someone else (assuming you still have it).

19. Me personally, I could never be with a man who doesn’t like my 🐱 in his mouth lol. You deserve all the sexual pleasures and that is a very important one imo. So if it’s bothering you that much I would reconsider the relationship, unless you think you can talk to him about it.

20. Cunnilingus does feel amazing, and you deserve to know what it feels like. You have to decide if that’s a deal breaker for you. You’re a Virgin, which means you’re just getting to know yourself sexually. Is this the guy you want to explore that side of you with?

    I’d beware of any double standards. He refuses to go down on you. Do you go down on him? Does he expect you to? I dated a man for 3 years who went down on me maybe 4 times but would expect a blowie either to start or finish sex. It bothered me, and I was miserable for that (and many other reasons). Now I’m with someone who enjoys doing it for me and for himself. He gets off on making me feel good, and it’s like I’ve hit the jackpot.

    It’s okay to be selfish in this case. Sex should be two sided, not one, so you really do have to do what’s best for you and eventually, once you find out what you like, someone will come along who is compatible for you. For many people, these kinds of sexual disagreements are rightfully dealbreakers.

21. Dont give him head should be a great experience for you both but if he doesnt reciprocate?

22. It’s kinda crazy how I see so many ppl calling the man childish and saying she should leave him etc. but if it was a guy complaining about his girl not sucking his dick everyone would say he’s an asshole and needs to stop thinking about it and how he’s selfish and doesn’t care about the girls comfort level.

23. Some men will never do the oral thing just like some women I’ve meet won’t. also some won’t let you give them oral so you need find it elsewhere or get him up to speed what you need

24. Wow the double standard is mind boggling! If he doesn’t want to do it, it’s his right, just as much as it is her right to leave if that’s important to her.

    But to say that he’s less than or to talk negatively about him bc he doesn’t do is wrong. It’s just a preference and that’s okay. None of us here would sing the same tune if a girl posted saying she doesn’t want to go down on him. We’d all be like it’s okay. It’s your right. Girl power!

    Same goes with him.

25. What is wrong with everyone in this thread? People are allowed to refused any sexual act for any reason.

    Talk about double standards. If this thread was about a woman who said she would never do anal, the reaction here would be completely different.