Can you become asexual? Or is it something that you have to be born like?

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1. It’s a sexual orientation like any other. You’re born with it. You can also become sex-repulsed which is often confused for asexuality. For instance, if you go through sexual trauma, a response to that might be loss of interest in sex due to the fact you’re still healing. This doesn’t mean you are *asexual*. But it is often confused for asexuality.

2. In most of the cases you’re born with it but sexual orientations change with time. It’s a journey of self discovery. You could pick a thing or two here: https://loveywrites.com/asexuality-what-does-it-mean-to-be-asexual/

3. As far as I am aware it is a sexual orientation which truly is something you are born with. It’s in your brain chemistry.

   What you may be experiencing here depending on age is a hormone issue. I would advise you to get your levels checked to see if you are low or imbalanced in some area. As Teenage years is the time that all of those drives are the highest due to the large amount of hormones being dumped into your system. Not giving medical advice or diagnosing but definitely an option to look at

   Another possibility is that you have had something trigger sex repulsion. So a sexual trauma (or even a non sexual trauma in some cases) could cause your brain to form a detachment from sex for its own protection. Very common in SA victims for example.

4. “maybe she’s born with it

   Maybe it’s clinical depression”

   (Katya or Trixie?)

   Have you recently noticed a lot of change in desire along side life changes?

5. No, you’re probably not asexual, just mentally blocked for some reason. Try getting with people you deem very attractive

6. I did. As a teen I was hormonal as hell and very interested in sex/relationships. When I hit adulthood, those feelings faded and I identified as asexual for a long time. Now that I’ve entered my 30s they’ve come back and I’ve dropped the label.

   Sexual orientation is a relatively new framework for understanding human sexuality. The idea that you are born with a particular sexuality that is innate and fixed may be true for some people, but it is not true universally. Let the labels be a descriptor for what you need/want at the time. Don’t agonize over whether you’re “actually” one thing or the other.