Fellow men of reddit, what’s the best way you’ve found to spoon with your SO that doesn’t put one of your arms to sleep?

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2. Keep your arm behind you.

3. I just put one arm under my pillow (which is more I sleep) and pull her into me and put my other arm over her. Then I dry jump her butt.

4. I do it the way with my arm under the pillow. My arm kind of sits under her neck just above her shoulders. The weight of her head it held by the pillow so it helps!

5. For spooning, you should put your arm in the space between her head and shoulder, so supporting her neck.

   Note that you aren’t going to be truly laying down on you’re side, lean back a bit so her upper body is supported by yours. Her head and shoulder sinks into yours, comfortably and snuggly. Your legs aren’t going to be spooning, but it’s the most comfortable you can get without losing bloody in your arm.

   Her weight distributed half with you and the bed. And because you aren’t fully laying on your side, you’re using a side of your body to support her instead of just your shoulder and arm.

   You’re arm is dying because you’re probably only using your upper arm/shoulder to support her head. Use the bed and the rest of your body.

6. [An arched pillow](https://www.fruugo.de/right-arm-tencel-couples-pillow-arched-cuddle-pillow-with-slow-rebound-memory-foam-for-arm-rest-hand-pillow-fa1137/p-58688785-119021729?language=en)

7. Either way I do it I don’t do it for long as I move around a decent amount in my sleep and twitch and shit so it would end up waking her back up lol

8. I place a firm pillow between my head and my arm in a way that her head is also on the same pillow. Works fine.

9. Just spoon until it is too uncomfortable and then roll over to your own side.