So this guy (m18) and I (f18) have been texting every single day for like probably about 2 months.We’ve gone out together 7 or 8 times, and I have started to like him I think. The issue is that I have told him this before, and he won’t say it back. He will just say “I like spending time with you” or “I enjoy seeing you” or something along those lines.
But then the thing is I know he talks to his friends about me?? Like i know this for a fact. And he has a picture he took of a flower when we went out one time as his wallpaper. And a heart I made him out of a gum wrapper in his phone case. And a keychain I gave him on his car keys. And he is always down to go out. And he listens to me ramble and explain entire book plots.
But then why won’t he say he likes me too?? Maybe he thinks of this as more of a summer fling and doesn’t want to get attached? Do actions really speak louder than words
TDLR: he won’t verbally say he likes me but his actions say he does?
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No no no this is not what “actions speak louder than words” is meant for. Someone who actually likes you won’t hesitate to say it back…
2 months isn’t very long. It’s normal for people to have their own timeline to get comfortable expressing how much they like you. There’s often an inbetweeny phase where you’re not quite sure about someone yet, but it’s going well, yanno? You’re probably in this phase.
At a certain point you’re going to have to go into the next phase though where you make things official and nobody is shy to say I love you anymore. Give him a bit more time. But don’t get caught in a never ending situationship where nothing has a label and you’re basically dating but nobody really knows.
>He will just say “I like spending time with you” or “I enjoy seeing you” or something along those lines.
So he IS saying it, just not the way you want him to say it.
Try to chill. Don’t give him more than he gives you.
For some, it’s hard to say aloud. Enjoy him. Give him space to grow more comfortable with you. Don’t push.