Earlier this year I got to know this girl between January to the beginning of April. I thought things were going pretty well. She mentioned at one point she was divorced and that I was one of the more serious situations that she’s had since that happened 4 years ago. I also met some of her friends during an event on the 2nd to last time we hungout.
The last time we were together I mentioned that I wasn’t sleeping with others and she said the same which I thought was encouraging. She then was getting ready to go out of the country for several weeks and started working a lot. I reached out to her 2-3 times during that stretch and realized something was different on her end. I asked when she wanted to get together (each time I reached out) and she said “she’d let me know and she was busy.” At that point I realized what was going on. I saw she changed a few dating photos from the app we met (she didn’t delete me surprisingly). I knew at that point to stop and move on. I never found out the reason why she ended it.
Fast forward to a month ago. I was seeing someone else for almost a month. She became “busy” as well. I knew what that meant and just walked away. She wasn’t very excited throughout our time together so it wasn’t much of a loss. However, I think about the initial girl and wondered what happened. Getting ghosted or not having these relationships not progress very far is getting me down. I feel like I’m doing something wrong or not meeting the right people. I kinda want to reach out to the first girl and see what happened on her end? I’ve moved on but I don’t want to make the same mistakes with the next girl. I’m excited that I make it to a month plus especially with online dating so I must be doing a few things right but I definitely want something sustainable and long term. Been struggling to go the distance and I haven’t met anyone new.