Hey guys, so growing up I (F, 18) was told not to watch porn because “its bad” but at the time i assumed that by “bad” they meant as in culturally, and also because “it isnt realistic”. Because of this, i rnded up watching porn and getting really into it, thinking that if i went in knowing it was unrealistic, it wouldnt effect me.
Now, im dealing with the real damages of watching porn that I wish i had been told about; that it makes it harder to enjoy real sex.
So, i’ve come here to ask, how do i get back to a point where I can have sex and actually be in the moment and enjoy it without needing porn or some big fantasy in my head.
Any help would be appreciated! And i have now stopped watching porn.
Also, i’m not trying to shift blame, this was my fault i should have listened, however i do think better education on why people shouldn’t watch porn is necessary, rather than “unrealistic” or just “its bad”.
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Stop watching porn, have real sex and try to think about sex while meditating without jerking off
You are 18. Your sexual journey barely started. You will change a couple of partners, some will be bad, some will awoken something in you that you never thought you have. Your self discovery journey has just started, work on the small kinks you think you have, like being in your head, and it will slowly click into place.
If you think you got a bit sidetracked with porn, stop watching it, explore your body by yourself, sex isnt just “getting there”.
And when you find a partner, you are very comfortable with and is willing to explore with you, go nuts.
Point Im trying to make, you are fine, nothing broke, nothing got damaged, sex evolves with time and you are all set.
How is you not enjoying sex and not being in the moment related to porn? Anyway – if you problem is being in the moment than mediation might help.
I’ve found myself addicted to porn before it was difficult because I used to jerk off daily to it but o just tried and cut myself off from porn and focused on painting or a side activity or sorts
Seems like the idea porn is bad has damaged you, not the porn itself.
Do you have any specific preference in porn? And how long since you started having sex?
Porn can become addicting. It has benefits but can also lead to things like you mentioned. If you are really concerned about the amount and affects that it has on you may want to check out r/PornAddiction
There is nothing wrong with watching as long as you realize that it’s not a realistic portrayal of sex…editing does wonders….it’s designed to make you want more…