Hello, like the title says, my question regards a girl.
It’s someone I have had a crush on since high school, we’re both now in our 20’s, this girl haunts my mind to the point where I don’t see any other girl. So it’s not a matter of whether I should do it, I have to ask her out and get an answer, so I can either marry her or finally close that chapter in case she says no.
She has definitely had a crush on me (2015/2016), now not so much (I’m pretty sure), we’re still very friendly.
I plan on asking her out for coffee and then telling her I have had a crush on her since 2015 and that I’d like to see her again, this means a date, I’d clarify I feel it’s not mutual and that she doesn’t have to say yes, I would just like a chance to take her out, doesn’t mean anything.
I wouldn’t say it straight to her face, it wouldn’t be the first thing coming out of my mouth, I plan on having a friendly convo and then as we’re parting I’d mention I like her.
Now, I overthink this a lot, I know it won’t play out like this, but this is more or less the plan and I have decided to follow through with this.
Is there anything I can do to improve my odds? This question is aimed more at women, I want to understand how it would be best to confess, I don’t want to manipulate her or anything, I just want the highest chance of success where she feels most comfortable.
This is more important to me than anything I’ve ever done in my life, so please let me know.