struggling with not having girl friends in my area due to lack of time and bad social anxiety – feeling lonely in the friendship department

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1. hi! i can’t really give you advice but you aren’t alone, i’m struggling with the same issue!

2. Hiya 🙂 I (F 19) have had problems with building strong, meaningful relationships during my years at school. I’m on a gap year and haven’t even gone out with any friends because I don’t have many. The hard part is that losing/ not having friends has made me lose my social skills so that now I find it hard to connect with others. The older you get the seemingly harder it gets to make friends as well like I can’t just say “hey, can I be your friend” “can I play with you?” like I could when I was like 5 yrs old or something 😂😂

   However I have considered joining a club or two in an area/hobby that I’m passionate about and can meet people who share similar interests. I know you said you lack time but is there a possible way you could fit this in somewhere? Once a week or so?

   If not, I’m sure you’ve heard of Bumble? There’s a friendship version of the app (not just dating).

   I’m gonna start trying to put myself out there (as uncomfortable as it makes me feel) but ease myself into it cuz I don’t wanna feel drained. In order to maintain the relationship be sure to follow up with the people you’ve acquainted often- try not to get back to them too late otherwise they’ll become discouraged and once you develop more of a bond they’ll probably be more forgiving of you getting back late. However, don’t try to force the relationship too much as being too desperate can sometimes drive ppl away. I wish you and everyone else reading this good luck in finding their tribe. It won’t be easy but in the end it will be totally worth it💕