Lately I’ve made good friend groups, just the problem is they are more in numbers. I’ve one high school group, one flatmates, one office, one university group and other group which I met along the way to my hobby searching. I like hanging out with all of them. But sometimes it gets exhausting to be a part of each one of them and giving equal time to all. Apart from them, I also have some close old friends which are across the world and I have to include them too.
Recently, it is getting hard for me to manage time for friends, family and myself. I can’t choose between them and say yes to all plans while sometimes I just want to be alone.
Any advice regarding how to juggle time for them and myself would be super helpful.
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Man this is a great problem to have
What I do is I introduce them to each other little by little. They usually split more off into groups of people that have more similar interests, leaving more acceptance when certain friends can’t/prefer not to attend!
For example, 1 of my work friends like karaoke, my sister likes karaoke, and 2 of my university friends like karaoke. Imagine you hate karaoke, and they know you have another commitment (doesn’t have to be disclosed). If everyone vaguely knows each other, they won’t have to be upset if you don’t attend because they’re interested whereas you aren’t. Which is okay, since so many are uninterested, yet there are still enough that are!
This way, you can have nicer celebrations that include everyone! A big birthday bash, a group vacation in an AirBNB mansion, a Christmas celebration with whoever has no one to celebrate with, etc. Not everyone has to come, and that’s fine because there are just so many of you! As long as people are aware of the events existing, they’ll be more than happy!
I have online friends and irl friends. They’re always happy to combine online or text each other, inquire on work related requests (networking), and meeting up! Not everyone, but enough of them! It benefits all that finds benefit!