I am 28M, a student at uni and the last 5 years I have rarely hanged out with people, mostly spent this time alone in my room. The last 3 weeks I have been studying with a female “friend” who needs to pass the same course. Before that I’ve only seen her in class and worked together. The last 3 weeks we’ve spent many days and many hours together in the library. We’ve talked about life, God, insecurities, deep shit and more. I felt a connection, after so long being alone. Finally I asked her out, but got rejected (she’s talking to another guy). Throughout these years alone, I’ve been at peace but that has been disrupted now. I’ve been feeling sad last couple of days, I think a bit lonely whenever I got home from the library, but honestly I don’t think it’s the rejection. It’s because I knew after the exam we wouldn’t be hanging out anymore. She avoids hanging out with guys one on one out of respect for her bf/potential future bf. I’m not sure she would be even interested, as she has many friends already, or so it seems. Also we don’t have mutual friends, so hanging out in a group is a bit tough. I also suck at staying in touch with people. I’ve cried a couple times this week, in anticipation for today’s exam.
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I enjoyed your company dude, I’m really gonna miss you :'(
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losing friends sucks, they make us feel valued, understood and connected to something bigger than ourselves. Our friends introduce us to new experiences and ways of being.
It takes time to get over any loss, don’t fall for the myth that all friendships are forever. Most friendships end, even the good ones.
besides, you two will probably remember these moments fondly in a while
hope you ok