I’m the type of person who makes jokes at my expense just to get the other person to laugh and I guess it’s my way of having fun with them. For example, I’ll joke about my physical appearance when the opportunity presents itself or act stupid when I can get laughs. Looking back, it was funny to me and I was having a good time but now I just don’t want to be perceived that way anymore. Now when I talk with this person, they’ll bring up my insecurities and use it as a joke. It’s been weighing me down because I don’t really want to see or talk with them too often. I guess I’m just feeling a little extra sensitive. I don’t want to get rid of this person either, they are one of my best friends but I need some help navigating this situation and creating boundaries without having it thrown back in my face.
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Personally I regard that as them cluelessly embarrassing themselves. Like when someone’s being self-deprecating, you don’t rub it in, christ. And if your friend doesn’t notice how uncomfortable you look every time, they’re being kinda dumb for continuing to do it, lol.
I guess you can help them out by being like, “I actually don’t really like it when people say that.” Something just to let them know. it’s not calling them mean or anything, right. No biggie.
idk what’s typical of your speech tho and im bad at dialogue, but you gotta just rip the bandaid off on this one and say something. 🤷♀️
When folks try and double down and reinforce on my insecurity-related self deprecation jokes, I’ll tell em to joke about themselves and keep my name out of their mouth. It’s much funnier if everyone makes fun of their own insecurities together and trades em around.
Wooooooow, this is really relatable. I just noticed this happening with me recently. I’m starting to think cutting back on self-deprecating might key.