My (20F) boyfriend (21M) is currently at home on break from university. His ex is from the same city as he is. Her birthday will be this week. We’ve been together for only a few weeks. They were together for almost a year (and broke up a few months ago) and remained friends after the breakup.
I don’t know her and I’m not invited to her birthday party (and I wouldn’t be able to go anyway). He is and he will attend. Initially, I didn’t have a problem with this. However, a few days ago he went to a party and his ex was there. He said that she tried to dance with him and he refused.
Since he said that I’ve been uncomfortable with the thought of him going to her birthday party. I’m afraid that she will hit on him again there. How can I process what I’m feeling and feel better? Or am I overreacting?I don’t want to tell him not to go because 1) I don’t want to be/appear insecure and 2) if he were the type of person to cheat, I’d be glad he did that so that I could break up with him. But I still feel uncomfortable.
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Just talk to him about it and get a little assurance that nothing will happen. If you trust your boyfriend it’s not that big of a deal that his ex hits on him nothing will happen. And if something happens it would have anyways.
You have to trust this guy to respect the integrity of your relationship. Let him know how you feel with the understanding that you want to trust him but need reassurance.