I’m a 18 year old trans man, I’m gonna be 19 soon. I’ve been asexual since a sexual assault that happened at 12. I want to start experimenting with pleasure without a person doing it. This may be sad, because yes I’m still a virgin, but I don’t have the will to try with a partner, it’s a scary thought that could trigger some memories I don’t want. I just want to know if I’ll feel any type of pleasure, ya know. So… advice on sex toys?
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It is not sad that you are a virgin, actually most people find it to be a commendable thing. Besides, you are a virgin by choice – it is not as if you were desperately trying to have sex but failing to find a partner.
However, the sexual assault that happened is sad. I am so sorry.
Now lets talk about your self pleasuring adventure. You don’t need a toy to begin with, using your hands is just fine. You can later upgrade to sex toys when you already know the basics.
Learning more about your clitoris can help you orgasm more easily during masturbation and once you know how to easily orgasm during masturbation, I believe it can become easier during sex (in the future when you are ready).
Concentrate on this area when you first start figuring out how to orgasm, while also paying some attention to the labia. When you are stimulating your clit, you’ll find that you can get most pleasure by rubbing it from the ‘1 o’clock position’ if you imagined it to be a clock. The ‘one o’clock’ position is the upper left area of your clitoris, so it’s easiest to stimulate with your left hand. Experiment with applying different amounts of pressure to it to see what you enjoy the most.
Then it’s just a case of continuously stimulating your clit while focusing solely on the types of rubbing, pressing and caressing that are most enjoyable.
Since you have never made yourself orgasm before, then you’ll need to do a lot of experimentation to see what feels best for you, which is always fun. Thankfully, you’ll find an encyclopedia of techniques you can use throughout pinned content on my profile