Has anyone gone through a rough time and agreed to have some space from each other to work on yourselves? Has anyone gone through this situation before?
Husband and I recently got into a huge argument and we both decided to take a break from each other and to only check in ones a week..
There’s a lot of things that have happened between us in the past and issues that weren’t resolved that came up during the argument. We both lost ourselves in trying to save our relationship from what happened in the past and that’s why we both decided we need to work on ourselves before we can really work on the marriage together and heal from the past… he didn’t know how long of a break he needed but we decided to see where things are 4 months from now. He is currently deployed overseas and will visit him in 4 months… we both agreed to work on ourselves and work on the marriage later and agreed that this break is only for us and not to create space between us if that makes any sense….
Has anyone been through this situation before? How long was the break and did it end up in divorce eventually or did it help the marriage ?
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Have clear rules of what’s permissible and what isn’t in the break
So, I actually tried this recently. My problem was that I had nowhere to go. I wanted to separate for this same exact reason if I wanted us to grow and change into better people so that we could have a healthier relationship because I felt the things he’s done wrong in the past I never healed from which also isn’t fair to him and I need to learn to forgive. If you guys are doing this for your marriage then yes! It can work. It’s going to be really hard but if you both truly take this time to work on yourselves, therapy if needed, etc you can be better versions of yourselves.