How do I rebuild my social life after living 6 years abroad and drifting apart from old friends?

When I was 13, I was fortunate enough to receive a scholarship to study at a high school in a foreign country. While this might seem unusual to some, it’s quite common in my home country, especially for parents who strive to secure a promising future for their children. I spent a total of 6 years living abroad, and now I’m currently in my second year of university.

During my free time, I kept myself busy with video games and studying, but I didn’t invest much in building social connections. Even at university, I struggled to make close friends as it seemed like everyone already had their own circles and lives figured out. I did manage to reconnect with a few old friends, but I can’t help but feel that some of them only reach out when they need something from me, while others simply don’t hold me in much regard.

Sometimes, I wonder if it’s all in my head, as lately, I’ve developed a habit of comparing myself to those around me. It’s not about comparing finances or material success, but rather how socially adept and accomplished others appear to be compared to me. I don’t feel envy towards them, but I keep thinking, “I wish I was more like that.”

What’s even more disheartening is that I lack photos with most of these people, nothing tangible to hold onto and cherish those great memories we shared. Instead, all I have are vague moments that I fear will fade away with time, leaving me with little to reminisce about in the years to come.

When I was abroad, those 6 years passed by relatively quickly with a daily routine of waking up, studying, and sleeping. It feels like just yesterday I used to hang out with those friends, but for them, it’s been a much longer journey. Whenever I tried to reconnect with them, they either ignored me or only vaguely remembered me.

I hold no grudges against them, as I understand those 6 years brought significant changes and memories for them, with new people and experiences. However, for me, the time felt different and passed by relatively quickly.”

As I reflect on my past and the challenges I currently face, I can’t help but feel a sense of longing for meaningful connections and a stronger sense of belonging. I know I need to break free from the habit of comparing myself to others and focus on finding my own path towards happiness and fulfillment.

At this point, I realize that I could really use some guidance and support. If anyone out there has been through a similar experience or has valuable advice to share, I would be incredibly grateful for your help. Whether it’s finding ways to build lasting friendships, gaining self-confidence, or learning how to embrace my unique journey, your insights could make a significant difference in my life.