I have seen to loss my mojo. I, M/45 and with a 37F. Her and my child are my entire world. I have issues with talking to her about it. I would love to have sex all the time but my body isn’t allowing it. She turns me on like no other. I literally sit around sometimes and think about what I want to do to her. She has a high sex drive and I’m not taking care of her needs. She thinks that I don’t want her. But it’s the complete opposite. It’s easy to just say go take Viagra. But that is not an instant fix. I love her so much and want no one but her. But she’s tired of it and I don’t know what to do.
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Have an honest conversation with her about it. But in case you aren’t aware, you are at the age where a man actually does start losing their mojos as scientifically proven when men ages it starts around 30 or 35 especially 40 on up his libido definitely takes a nose dive his orgasm quality dwindles as his stamina and erections, unfortunately. For women this is the total opposite as a woman ages she is more sexually satisfied and more sexually hungry and her stamina can skyrocket. So you are kind of in a little age gap here that may be at odds sexually. She needs to understand this but here’s something that you can do. What you actually need to do is if you cannot function sexually to her sexual commands, there are always other things you can do such as using your mouth tongue and fingers or sex toys which I would definitely recommend sex toy especially a clit suction toy that will help out a lot because you have to remember even though you’ve been losing your mojo doesn’t mean she has to lose it with you. So try to take care of her needs as much as possible because she still has that right to be satisfied by you if you choose to fulfill her sexual needs.
What’s the source of your loss of mojo? Are you still sexually attracted to her? Have you had your blood tested for things like low testosterone / underactive thyroid? Is your health in check (good diet, exercise, weight, restful sleep, manageable stress)?
There are a lot of factors that can play into your libido and lots are lifestyle related which are relatively easy to fix by tweaking certain habits. For anything hormone related you can get support from a doctor. That is all assuming you are attracted to your wife obviously.
I also find that open communication does wonders to a couple. Being able to talk about what you like / want, no secrets, can really spice things up and that is a turn on in itself.