So my(22F) gf(22F) and i both have a fantasy of having a 3some with a guy and may try to act it out one day. Not right now because it’s a relatively new relationship (less than 6 months) and we want to make sure we are well rooted and connected before trying anything like that. Our sex life is great and we are satisfied with each other.
Is there anyone here that has had success doing 3somes or being a sexually open relationship? If so how and what tips do you have?
I know that more often than not things like that end badly, ig i’m just looking for the success stories lmao. I love her and we were best friends for years before becoming in item. And all though i’m turned on sexually about the thought of adding a guy to the bedroom, My anxiety of it hurting our relationship is stronger. Any advice?
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Married 28 years here, together almost 31 years, we’ve done hotwifing for almost six years total now. That includes tons of threesomes, meeting other couples a few times, and my wife having FWBs.
It’s not for everyone, but it’s possible to not only work, but to make your relationship stronger. You learn to get REALLY good at communication. You do have to both value your partner’s happiness above even your own. But it can be amazing.
Here’s the thing about anecdotes…
So ignoring the established truth that anecdotal evidence is not evidence, you will find–probably in this very thread–comments from both people like me–my wife and I are a couple years into swinging–and people who had a threesome and it ruined their relationship.
It really has everything to do with the couple and their mentality going into it and post-threesome or whatever event.
There is no one answer; it’s a personal thing.
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I think your situation is about the only one I’ve seen go well. My advice is take small steps. Watch your partner flirt w a guy at a bar and see how that makes you feel.
More importantly, make sure you and your partner talk first about boundaries. Condoms, climax, oral sex, etc. Once you feel comfortable, then approach someone (not a personal friend), develop some trust and explain your boundaries.
Married 17 years, together 20 years. We had our first threesome (MMF) about 10 years ago. And we still do threesomes, and occasionally foursomes. We are both still madly in love with each other, and would never let anything come between us. If either of us ever said we didn’t want to do threesomes anymore, we would stop.
Threesomes for us are just a fun sexual experience.