F29 I have a high sex drive, only consistently got off when I was in a long term relationship. Being on top or missionary, anything where my clit is getting attention, hand stuff, oral will work. I think feeling safe and comfortable being vulnerable helped too.
Moving forward, I recently slept with someone I’ve had my eyes on for the past year who lives nearby. He’s extremely hot and we have great chemistry. Spent many nights just having heavy make out sessions touching each other taking it slow. However, when we finally slept together the foreplay was shorter and I started out on top but then he flipped me over and changed positions so many times, there was no way I could orgasm. (super hot though lol)
In situations like this where it’s the first time, how can I advocate for myself in a sexy, non pushy way?
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“Ok my turn to cum in your mouth, I can’t wait for you to taste me!” and spread those legs to get some head.
I set those expectations with my husband way up front. I took his virginity. He went down on me the first time I went down on him. He’s only ever known oral reciprocity. You gotta train your partner early on so they know it’s expected. A big part of a relationship is someone comfortable giving you oral pleasure, in my book.
“I want you to make me cum / I want to cum for you / I want to cum all over your face/cock.” There isn’t a man alive who wouldn’t be turned on by that. Then get into a position you know you can cum in.