I can’t imagine not really liking someone, and spending time with them voluntarily, just to say you hang out with someone, I know it happens, but it is kind of insane, In my opinion.

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  2. I used to hang out with people who would constantly criticize me for perceived slights. The vibe was like…they were over-analyzing everything I did and looking for hidden ill intent in my words and actions. The only reason I stuck around is that they managed to take up enough of my time to sort of isolate me. And the peer pressure to attend every hangout was very real. It was weird, and I’m glad to be rid of them.

  3. I have serious anxiety and amnesia , so I was very quiet in my group of friends . I needed to leave my home situation as often as possible to fell any comfort. I needed somewhere to go and someone who I could share my story with. I hardly ever did because it felt like my experiences weren’t real, or memories were incomplete
    Glad they let me hang – some fun times but a lot of just sitting watching listening thinking

  4. this was always me when I was in oublic school.

    one experience to be specific in elementary I used to hang out with 3 kids that played really stupid games that they probably didn’t understand either and I played along and regretted it every time, from what I remember I don’t think they even cared about me maybe besides the sort of leader of the group but I don’t know for sure if he does.

    now I’m alone (excluding family) and have to remind myself daily that this is better than anything else I would get.

  5. This was a long time ago, but when I was little my best friend went away for the summer. That left one other girl on the street to play with. It was awkward at first but when my BF came back she found us in the upstairs bathroom with a bucket of garden mud for facials and washing our feet in the toilet. Good times!

  6. We’re social animals. One thing I’ve found is that liking people sometimes just takes time as you get to know them – shared experiences just create bonds. You might just be closing yourself off with this mindset. It’s normal to want human connection imo

  7. Oftentimes people are more concerned about being liked, than deciding if they like the other person. I know for me, as a massive people pleaser, it took me a long time to realise that I felt insecure with these people because they weren’t very nice people, not because I wasn’t good enough to be around them. Realising I just disliked some people was a massive revelation for me. I can’t be the only one.

  8. Am I the only one who thinks less of people who actually take an interest in me and like me? And chases after the company of people who don’t like me as much??

    Like, I hang out with the former because I want company, but I might be distracted bc I want to be with the latter.

    I just wish I was satisfied/actually liked the friends that like me. Bc I’ve always chased after those who don’t care about me as much.

    Maybe they have less anxiety, party more, less care in maintaining an image in public that I admire.

    When the people who care about me also have mental issues/anxiety that they struggle with everyday.

    I wish I could fix my shit so I can be what I admire. Or accept my anxieties and actually like the friends that like me.

  9. No 😭 it’s insane to me too. I feel like I could’ve spent my time doing something important like sleeping or browsing the net.

  11. No. Which is odd because the one friend that i was closest to assumed thats why i hung out with her and blamed me for her lack of self esteem then insisted the moment we stopped talking that id replace her with something or someone else. Got tired of her nonsense and haven’t talked to her since. Nothing is really quite worth dealing with that and it taught me that people with such low self esteem cant be convinced of anything until they learn they have value on their own. Doesnt matter what u say or do, they will still decide to assume they are insignificant and putting energy there is an energy siphon.

  12. Unfortunately, I’ve fallen into this situation more times than I could count. I live in a small town, so meeting new ppl is kinda hard for me. Recently was friends with some ppl from high school, and it was completely shallow. I had to close a door to the past.

  13. Not necessarily NEEDY, but my husband would invite a dude over when he was lazy and wanted beer. Dude wasn’t bad, probably my only complaints are he never bothered to remember my name and he took mean dumps (like we had to get the industrial toilet snake specifically for when he visited.) I think my husband stopped inviting him because he kept bringing Coors Lite.

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