I’m 19 this is my first relationship and I’m in college and when I masturbated (I don’t anymore) I liked to rub and finger my ass and it improved the orgasms so I wanna explore this with my girl and ask her to eat and finger me and maybe peg me but idk how to bring it up cus I don’t want to ruin the relationship as we’ve been dating for a year and a half and the sex is good as well as the rest of the relationship. However I don’t know if me not asking will be bad for our relationship in the future
What should I do ? As we haven’t really discussed exploring new things so idk how to bring it up
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Have you had a discussion about each others kinks, fantasies, etc?
One good way to start the conversation is to do one of the many online kink surveys together. Then discuss the the results and see where your interests overlap. You may find out that she is aroused by the same thing. Or that she’d be open to exploring at least. And you’ll likely learn some things to do for her as well.
“Hey, so I saw this online sex quiz posted on Reddit and I think it might be fun to try it and see if there are things we’d be interested in trying together.”
https://mojoupgrade.com/
This goes beyond anal fingering into pegging territory, but it might help:
Everyone has the right to decide what they do and don’t want to do in bed. But sometimes fears and misconceptions around Pegging can get in the way of responding rather than reacting to those myths and assumptions.
For this reason I am a fan of having accurate information before the final decision is made. In that spirit, I recorded two podcasts; one for givers and one for receivers.
• Givers: https://peggingparadise.com/blog/2015/09/podcast-112-for-the-ladies/
• Receivers: https://peggingparadise.com/2019/12/podcast-253-for-the-gentlemen
These recordings address all the usual fears and misconceptions, offer accurate information and emphasize the relationship, not trying to convince. You need to listen to it first before playing it for your partner, because only you can decide if it is appropriate for them. So far, these podcasts have gotten rave reviews. Good luck!