I am a straight 42 yo female. I met a 44 guy at the bar that I assume is also straight. I have a pretty high sex drive and this is one of the few guys that satisfies me. This guy says hes dominant. We didn’t talk about kinks or anything. We just started having amazing sex
He kept telling me to be still and be quiet. Moaning helps me generate energy through my body to cum. I am not a screamer or super vocal – I’ve never though I was particularly loud during sex. I am not a pillow princess. I am more of a switch. I like caressing balls, sucking nipples, tonguing ears, ass play etc. Im just a little weirded out that he kept telling me to be still and be quiet. Ive never had someone tell me those things during sex. Thoughts? š« š¤
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>This guy says hes dominant. We didn’t talk about kinks or anything.
Red flag.
Tell him being a passive recipient of sex isn’t as enjoyable for you as being an active participant.
Iād never see them again if it were me. Thatās too weird
Iām not sure who youāre referring to with the TruBlood reference, but this guy sounds odd. Thatās such a weird thing to say to a woman. Not to mention a bit unsettling.
Be still and be quiet?
Combine that with him saying heās dominant and itās just creepy.
I would honestly walk purely because thatās such an uncomfortable situation.
So what did he say when you discussed it with him?
Idk about all this āred flagā stuff but-
He has what gets him off, you have what gets you off. If what gets him off doesnāt work for you then thatās something we call sexual incompatibility. If it works fine for you then no harm no foul.
Ask him if you really wanna know.
Maybe he was trying not to cum.
Were you at his place? Is it possible that he was afraid the two of you were gonna wake up his neighbors or at roommate or something? If not, I would be seriously weirded out.
Sometimes the guy Iām with will tell me to ānot moveā when weāre fucking. Idk why he does it, but I like when he bosses me around, so Iāve never had a problem with it. Iāve had other guys tell me to āshhhā and I like that too. I think it just depends on the context and how it feels. Is it creepy or is it hot?
On the flip side, when I have a guy on top of me and I want to cum, Iāll tell him to just lay on top of me and stay still because I like to do all the work. I donāt want him to move *at all* because it messes up my flow, ha. So idk? š¤·š»āāļø Itās funny because I think every guy who Iāve told to do it doesnāt get it at first. They think they have to do something, and Iām like no – just stop please for like two minutes. Thereās always a look of confusion, but then afterwards theyāre like oooh ok that was cool.
In the right context those can be dominant phrases and if he wanted you to say no then he probably likes brats. He’s saying those things in hopes that you disobey because it turns him on. That’s why it’s good to discuss this stuff first.
Sounds like a fantasy he plays out? What would happen if you said you didn’t want to stay quiet during sex…
I’m confused….you said it was amazing
Maybe he was just trying not to blow too soon ?
Anyone else getting Succession vibes when Roman tells his girlfriend to ālay still, like a corpse wouldāā¦.
From the sounds of it you enjoyed it at the time. I think if it truly weirded you out you wouldn’t be referring to the sex as amazing. Maybe you subconsciously liked it but now only after the fact you are pondering it and looking too deeply into it.
i read a story on here where a girl’s BF asked her to do the same kind of stuff, turned out he was into necrophilia
not saying that’s the case here obviously lol, but trust your gut and don’t sleep with him again if you don’t wanna get told to be still and quiet
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