I dont have a problem with coworkers or pragmatic relationships, but when friendships or possible friendships are involved It stresses me the fuck out: making plans, going after people so they confirm them or not, lack of honest communication, constant drama, people flaking last minute, making jokes and thinking they are laughing at me, people seeing me as a loser for confiding in them my fears, me acting like a stupid or annoying … On the other end, you have people wanting to overshare, asking intrusive questions and communicate with me all the time I feel smothered. I cant find the balance, what’s wrong with me? I prefer to be alone most of the time having to face all this.
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>I can’t find the balance, what’s wrong with me?
IMO there is no real “balance”. It mostly depends on the individual as to what their own balance is.
From my own experience, it was only after a near nervous breakdown that I realized that I was only rly good at making new friends and sucked ass at maintaining friendships. After that, I started drastically trimming down my social life to a few people I actually respected and cared about and started feeling a lot better mentally. There’s nothing wrong with wanting more ‘alone time’.
If you’re feeling smothered by your current social life, it might be better to take a break from everyone and reevaluate your own “balance”. If you don’t like being in certain friendships maybe it’s time to consider letting them go or maybe consider setting up some boundaries.