What is the time cut-off for a date to be late?

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1. I’ll wait for 30 minutes, if they keep me updated on the delay and how long they’re likely to be. If they don’t bother to keep me updated, I’m not waiting.

2. Depends on the date. If it’s a movie, then it would be the time the movie starts. If it’s dinner, then if you go through a bowl of chips/bread/free appertiser, then it’s late. Everyone needs to be on time, especially on first dates. It’s definitely not an hour like some people will suggest. Communication is key though. Calls and texts if someone is running late and actually intends to show., are a must.

3. They shouldn’t be late at all, but if we’re just dating and they’re more than 10-15 minutes late without at least a text, I won’t be waiting around for them.

4. Assuming they hadn’t reached out to tell me they were running late and apologize, I’d probably wait 20-25 minutes.

   If they *had* texted to apologize (and ideally provided an ETA), I’d wait up to 30-40 minutes depending on 1) how much I liked the person, 2) how comfy or not comfy the environment was to loiter in, 3) whether I had anything to do while I wait, like a book to read.

   However, honestly it would be hard for someone to recover from being that late. They would have to do a lot to make up for it.

5. Assuming they let me know/kept me updated and they were late for something completely out of their control (traffic accident blocking the road, train delays etc.), I’d have no issues waiting for an hour or more.

   If they didn’t get in touch at all, I’d text them after 5 and leave after 10. If they let me know but said they were late because they forgot, got distracted by something, or anything similar, I’d just leave. I have very little patience with people who can’t be on time. It’s such blatant disrespect for me and my time, and someone who’s not willing to put in effort even during the get to know each other-phase won’t get better with time.

6. Depends on the reason why they’re late imo. I once had a date stuck in traffic because roads were closed after a horrible accident. I waited an hour and didn’t mind.

   If there’s no reason and they don’t let me know that they’re late or why, I’m gone after 15 minutes with a text that I left.

7. 30-45 minutes if they notify me that they are running late.

   If they don’t, then I’ll leave in 15 minutes.

8. In this age of cell phones, he shouldn’t be late at all without letting you know. Nobody should–and due to the tender nature of things, everyone should be on time unless there’s an emergency. I must say, if someone left me sitting somewhere wondering, awkwardly waiting and uncomfortable, that’s not the man for me.

9. If you’re more than 10 minutes late and you haven’t communicated to me otherwise then I’m out.