I (30M) have been single for most of my life. I haven’t been in a successful relationship that lasted longer than 2 weeks, and that was 10+ years ago. I haven’t received a kiss from a woman in 5+ years. My confidence and self-esteem are all gone. My social anxiety, pessimism, and shyness are at all-time highs. I absolutely hate my physical appearance. I personally feel that being a man with Asperger’s/autism is a death sentence because they’re perceived as unable to find true love. What should I do?
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Focus you attention on yourself as a goal to improve your looks and wealth, most men with your condition can overcome any obstacles with determination. You will gain that confidence inward not outward with picturing a strong self in the future.
You should have a mindset of a path to your best self with learning the steps to build yourself up. With a single step towards your goal, like signing up to a gym and getting a website with an idea you have that is viable.
The only thing that’s getting in your way is doubts and indecision just have 1 small goal set to do everyday and by next year you will be on a path to having the future you want and girls will.come when they see you as a man with a purpose in life.
Bro, dating isn’t even worth it for neurotypical dudes. It looks like relying on women for your self esteem is making you miserable, so find hobbies or interests that give your life meaning without relying on others
Ive had one gf at 20. Im 37 now. So 17 years without a hug, kiss, holding hands or any sort of intimate conversation. Youll be okay.